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The changes come fast and furious, and each little change makes you a little more dead inside. So you need to be able to do something about those changes. That begins with remembering the things you liked about yourself before you were invested in the relationship in the first place. Honestly, part of the reason you may have split was that you lost too much of yourself to begin with. I agree that marriage is making two whole people into a whole new person.
But if you lost yourself entirely at the start, what were you really contributing to your new whole? The only person contributing would be the other person as you lost yourself and sense of direction or purpose. So I needed to remind myself how much I enjoyed reading and writing.
So much of myself I lost over the past several years, and I need to reinvest in myself. This begins with trying to do the things I love again and seeing what things give me energy and feed into myself as a person. I know why, when they are going through difficulties in life, some people turn to drugs or alcohol.
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They do make you feel better for a time. Actually, they just make you a little nutty and you feel like your problems vanish away. Only then you discover the next morning all of your problems are still there with a few more problems besides all of that. It gets to be scary. And you feel overwhelmed. Exercise releases positive endorphins. You will feel good about yourself and that all of the problems you have are manageable.
I think this feeling that they are manageable instead of gone makes a big difference here. I am not anti-alcohol. You will feel better about yourself and your circumstances. And I am all for a natural cure as opposed to a drug. You need to find things positive in your life from which to draw energy. Yes, your children can be those positive things. So you can do that. But I would think about all kinds of things you can be grateful for. All of those things will help me get through the rough moments when the arguments come, or the doubt begins to set in.
The courts, through their jurisprudence, make this father feel substandard. They feel like they have been caught in a system where they are not treated fairly. And they feel like they have no means of redress. In fact, I had several lawyers inform me that many in the family courts went there because of their own grievances against men and were working them out through the court system.
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And so the dad feels a loss of control. While its possible this loss of control is illusory, the man still senses it. For men, control is everything. And here comes a system which robs of him of this sense of grounding. This can be a source of both depression and exasperation in the single dad. Hopefully, the dad develops an indomitable spirit and a vision for the possibilities, realizing the adventurous possibilities of life which no one completely controls. With the wrong partner, everything goes down a spiral of hate and self-pity. You will know this man by the inability to overcome frustrations and the fact little frustrations set him off in inappropriate ways.
This single dad is totally out of control and needs to be avoided entirely, no matter how badly you feel for his kids. Just stay away. While these difficulties in dating a single dad can seem daunting, as a divorced dad myself, I understand how amazing the right relationship can be. And if you can see beyond the brokenness of the individual, you might see the amazing soul found therein.
This soul can be dedicated, loving, patient, and truly understand what it means to be a good husband, father, and best life partner on the planet.
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He might just need a little push and reminder from time to time of what it looks like. Then again, everyone does. Discover the possibilities. And go into the relationship with an open mind, understanding there will always be difficulties like in any relationship. But a little time, patience, and hard work and something wonderful can result. What were the struggles? What were the good things? If you had one thing to say to those interested in dating you, what would it be?
And for those of you single people, what is your biggest concern in any relationship, be it with a single parent or not? If you liked this post, I am going to do a little happy dance. And then remind you to shoot me a comment and possibly click the like star for this post. Because it makes me appreciate what areas I need to cover more often. Then share it with your friends on social media using one of the buttons provided.
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All the best with your dating. The inferiority complex issue makes me sad! The open and honest communication is what will help for sure. I have been a single parent at some point in time and it is true. Your self esteem drops to the lowest levels. I just hope you find the right person that is willing to spend the rest of your life with. Contact Me. Like this: Like Loading Dad Dating dating a single dad dating a single parent depression father. I created this site to speak to other parents and single parents about the struggles of parenting and to let them know that they are not alone in the struggle.
Sitting next to a friend the other day we started talking about how fast the year went by. I have a theory about that. Sometimes, when I start a series, things get exciting and I just keep going. With some series, I can rattle off several weeks in a Being a blogger, and a single dad blogger at that, I often wonder what the most popular posts on my blog are. Ironically, aside from Not to mention, you are both employed in some way or another and have a multitude of life, family and work commitments to work around.
While dating, I met and spent time with a few single dads and some single guys with no children. Let me tell you, I quickly learned that the single dads were, in general, the best guys I met. They were kind, patient, considerate, and frankly, not self-centered jerks.